Early in my marriage, I discovered my husband liked to push people’s buttons. He would get to know you, what made you tick and then find ways to drive you crazy.
He’d brag about doing this as a kid. I watched him do it to friends and family. He did it to me. I got to a point where I said this is enough.
Well, my then husband would complain that my grandfather would call him ‘Mr. Joe’ to be insulting.
I had never seen my grandfather be anything but a gentleman. So I could hardly believe that my grandfather was pushing someone’s buttons.
Fastforward to today. I’ve been divorced since 91, my ex has had 2 heart attacks, my grandfather has had dementia for a year and a half.
Needless to say we’ve been having some interesting dialogs. There have been appologies, there have been unlocked memories and also the realization that maybe Grandpa was just as good at pushing people’s buttons as my ex.
Do you push people’s buttons? Do they push yours? Is there something you can do different for a different outcome? How will you know if you don’t try?
Laura
Primary Parenting On Purpose
laura@primaryparentingonpurpose.com
primaryparentingonpurpose.com
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